Men don’t change. 

Women are agents of change. 

Men seek to conserve what they have. 

Women seek to improve what they have. 

A man-woman relationship is in constant tension between these two forces. Men find a woman and hope she stays the same, and is generally disappointed when they don’t.  Women find men they can improve and are generally disappointed when they are only able to change their hair or clothes.

To minimize the tension between man and woman in relationships, here is the trick:  don’t every try to change any personality traits in the man.  It will never happen.  Men’s personalities never get better with age then tend to stay the same and generally become less flexible over time.  For example, a man who is giving in the begining will propbaly become generous to a fault as he ages.  However, a man who is cold, unemotional or withdrawn will not become more so. 

If a man is 40% not right for you and 60% right then it is just not right.  You have to be happy with him about 85% of the time.  And what you don’t like should be small things, like his choice of hair style or clothes.  Everything else you have to live with no matter what happens.

 

 

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